Dear Ms. Violet, Daffodil, and Ms. Daisy, I feel like I always come off as stupid. To girls lower than my grade and to my friends. I feel like I am out of place. If I do something by mistake kid look and treat me like I am stupid. Even one of my friends gives me looks like their annoyed and they look like I just asked stupid question. Am I stupid? WHAT do I do? HELP! -Wonder?
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Crushed
4/15/2009 11:05:16 am
I have a really big crush on this guy and I don't know what to do! I want to tell him, cause I think he likes me, but I don't know how!!!!! I really like him. Please help me!!!!!!
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Frenemies
4/15/2009 11:14:09 am
My 2 best friends are always going of and never tell me anything! I feel that they hate me! Help!!!!!
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Tired of Teasing
4/16/2009 08:16:18 am
My friend is always teasing me about this guy that really likes me. She is making up my name for when I am married to him. She tries to make jokes that are "hilarious". I get really offended and I act like I don't care, but I don't know what to do. Can you help???
One thing, sweetie, that I can tell is that many of your other friends tease you too. And this friend of yours has, possibly teased or hurt you before. You seem to be smart, but bottling up your sadness and anger makes it all the much worse. Your friend must seem to ask for attention and she must gain from hurting you. This is not an OK thing to do. Telling HER stop may not STOP her and telling her that your offended isn't going to help even though that's what you feel. Yet, just acting like that you don't care isn't great. From being a kid once, I have noticed that just telling her that "Seriously ___, why are you saying this? First your jokes aren't funny and their kind of mean. Your annoying me." or something along the lines of that. Then, I would plainly ignore her, or change the subject. Now, If none of this ever works you may want to try what my good friends Ms. Daffodil and Ms. Daisy have to say. They are much better in this field.
Love and hope, Ms. Violet
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Ms. Daisy
4/16/2009 01:46:58 pm
Dear Tired Of Teasing, There are some people who are going to tease you. Exactly like how this friend of yours is. I'm not saying you should learn to deal with it, but instead, do this: Talk to her about how her jokes are affecting you. I cannot tell you how to word this, for that is your desicion. If she stops making the jokes, she obviously cares about you, and wants to be your friend for a while. If she doesn't do anything, and keeps making jokes.... It's time to face the truth. She doesn't respect you, and it's time to move on. This may be painful at first, but then you will realize that there are people out there who do care about you. I do.
Dear Wonder, If your friends don't help or encourage you then they aren't really your friends. If they don't answer you when you ask a question and look at you like your stupid, then you should just say "Are you going to answer my question?" If they don't then just ignore them and socialize with other people. Hope this helps! -Ms. Daffodil
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Tired of Teasing
4/17/2009 11:32:35 pm
Thanks you guys. By the way, you guys really seemed to know who I am... Do you?
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Ms. Daisy
4/18/2009 12:30:00 am
Dear Tired of Teasing, I do not happen to know who you are. I said I care about you because I care about all of our websites viewers, and commenters. Thank you for putting in some advice, and I hope we helped you!
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Tired of Teasing
4/18/2009 01:14:24 am
I know you care about everyone. I wasn't really referring to that. I was reffering to when Ms. Violet said that it seems like a lot of other people tease me too. I thought you guys would figure me out by what I said. Maybe not...
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Ms. Daffodil
4/18/2009 05:14:13 am
Hang around him a little bit (not in a stalker way, of course) and to get to know him. See if you really like him- if you have alot in common or if you have matching personalities. Try to befriend him if you are still interested. If any of your friends sometimes hang around with him then follow their lead. Then maybe, if you still can't tell him in person, pass him a note during class or call/email him. Hope it helps! Ms. Daffodil
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Ms. Violet and Ms. Daffodil
4/18/2009 05:24:52 am
Dear Frenemies, To start this off, do you have other friends? You must and if you do maybe you should hang out with them more. These friends of yours aren't real friends and they're toying with your friendship. See if those other friends will stay with you and if so, that's great! Problem solved! If not, You need yourself some new friends, lady! Remember, the tips of making friends. 1. outgoing. 2. kind 3. butting into peoples converstaions. (haha) 4. singing a song that everyone [cool] knows. Hope this helps! -Ms. Violet and Ms. Daffodil
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Merissa
4/18/2009 05:26:00 am
I need doritos SO BADLY!! AAAHH!
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Leave?
4/20/2009 08:33:33 am
My friend and I have been together for few years. We used to click like-soo well. Then we had a kind-of-fight. After that she started treating me weird. And then she started like hitting me and kicking me. She even (sometimes) verbally abuses me. I don't really know what to do, and sometimes I just want to cry. But wouldn't that just give her what she wanted? I don't really like hurting people. I don't hit things. But my parents say I should defend myself by not hurting her but twisting her arm or making her stop it. My mom says I should just tell her to stop. That has never worked though. I don't really know what to do because nothing helps. I just want to scream at her to stop. I mean, I have tried to tell her calmly "Stop it." but then she just says: "Your so fragile. God, like if I lightly touch you you just cry. God, your so annoying. I didn't even really hurt (even when it did)!
Everyone in my family loves her, because she is so cool. But now they say I should just break up the friendship or stop hanging out with her for awhile. That has worked once over a summer. But it just came back to this.
HELP ME!
-Leave?
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Mad and Angry
4/20/2009 11:10:37 am
Some of my friends got invited to this birthday party and I wasnt invited. They all know that i know about the party, but still they talk about it in front of my face. It really bugs me. When I tell them t5hat its mean the say they will stop.... but theyu don't.
I feel really left out!! from, Mad and Angry
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Ms. Daisy
4/20/2009 12:43:12 pm
Dear Leave?, I understand that you love this friend very much. We all love our friends. Maybe sometimes, it's hard to accept that our friends may not respect us as much as we think they do. What I would do, is tell her. Tell her that it hurts you, and that you love whatever she makes fun of. When she phisically hurts you after that, it's time to take a break. I love you, and good luck with your friendships.
-Ms. Daisy
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Gabi
4/21/2009 12:29:15 pm
I Love you and I hate it when you're sad! I'll stop! I want to click! I care about you and I HATE it when you're sad! sorry sorry sorry sorry sorry.
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Ms. Daffodil
4/22/2009 10:32:42 am
By the way, the "get to know him" reply was for CRUSHED. Thanks!
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Ms. Daffodil
4/24/2009 09:49:35 am
Hey Merrissa, BUY SOME DORITOS.
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MS. VIOLET
4/24/2009 02:52:48 pm
I hear their having a sale at the Plaid Pantry---
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Ms. Daffodil
4/25/2009 10:34:49 am
Oh, and while you're at plaid pantry could you buy me some nerds?
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red flashing red
4/25/2009 12:23:04 pm
I like nerds
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Stephanie
4/25/2009 01:17:27 pm
wow. whatever yr retarded and you are just scared and u no tht im smarter than you.
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Ahem
4/25/2009 02:38:39 pm
If you want to call us retarded then maybe you should learn how o spell.
Oh and by the way, I heard there was a horrible accident involving a short bus and I just wanted to ask if you were okay.
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OK PEOPLES
4/26/2009 03:54:13 am
This is a ADVICE columb. This is for ADVICE.
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OK,
4/26/2009 04:48:22 am
Let's have advice questions here
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crushed..:'-(
4/26/2009 08:33:20 am
I have this really good guy-friend that i have a crush on. He is really cute and funny! he knows that i like him and uses it against me! he will Say "if you buy me a cookie i will hug you" and starts to laugh! he makes me feel happy and sad at the same time. What should I do? I can't stop liking him! HELP!
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DANCE FRIEND (COURTNEY)
4/26/2009 08:35:29 am
hey LARA!!!!! i was just wondering what your e-mail is...? thanx!(and i kno that this is not an advice Question but i need to kno because i kno lara personnaly!)
Dear Crushed, This boy is taking advantage of you! And I think this is the time to play hard to get, honey. "Get me a cookie and I will hug you!" And you will say, "Then don't expect a cookie." Don't always let him walk all over you. If he keeps doing this, I would walk away. It's simply the matter of letting him know that he hasn't ever shown good fried-ism. And I think, aside from knowing you like him, he likes you. I must go, Ta Ta, Love,
Ms. Violet
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crushed...:-(
5/1/2009 09:25:20 am
Thanx ms. Violet1 that really helped! I will definatly take your words into action! thanx again!
-Crused.. :) :) :)
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arist?
5/1/2009 09:30:26 am
I love to draw, sculpt, and paint. I was the best in the class and I didn't even think i was that good! then this boy got transferred to my class and is way better! Now, everyone (even my BFF's) are paying no attention to me! I don't want to sound stuck up or anything, but i wish it was like the old days when all eyes were on me! I'm not very good at anything else, so to have the one thing I'm good at takn way from me, is REALLY sad!
HELP!!!
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Ms. Daffodil
5/1/2009 02:40:05 pm
Dear Artist, You ARE talented, and will be even when your peers aren't telling you that every day. You got your time and now it's time to share- that doesn't effect how well you paint, or sculpt, or whatever you do best! If you really want to know what people think then go up to your friends or classmates and ask them what they think. I'll bet that they'll say something positive. And don't consider yourself vain just because you want to know what people think of uou and you want encouragement. Your the same as anyone else. Toodles, Ms. Daffodil
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Gabi
6/3/2009 12:28:40 pm
you're. my bad.
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confused and worried. :(
6/22/2009 08:17:50 am
Once upon a time, I had a friend and I loved her very much. Once upon a time, she loved me very much and cared about me much. We got separated. I became very...not nice. She would still call me her best friend...the next year, we had a big fight. I promised to be better, and I WAS better. Yet I felt something was different. I still cared about her very much, as she was one of the most important people in my life, but I didn't feel that she felt me that important anymore. I said my favorite memory was the moment we met, she said it was the the year I wasn't in her class. I feel like I don't mean that much to her but she means the world to me. I don't know what to do. HELP ME, WOMAN!
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Elena
6/22/2009 03:00:20 pm
Caitlin? Is this about me caitie-lynn?
Caitlin, i know this is u...I never said that in my favorite memory? I said my 4th grade year rocked....I never knew that you said that your favorite memory was meeting me! Caitlin....I talk about you all the time.....u mean everything to me! ur my second sister....ur more then my sister....I love you caitlin! what do you mean by that comment!?!?!?!? whyyY!
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Drifting
6/28/2009 08:56:53 am
I have these 2 amazing friends. We always hang out, and we have a group name for ourselves. We click so well. Some things we have in common, some are different. But that's not what matters. Recently (meaning this last year) there's been a lot of......... issues. Fights. Things to make us angry or not trust each other. We all really do care about each other and eventually in one way or another, our problems are solved. They've gotten in fights mostly, but now, I guess its my turn.
One of these friends of mine thinks I don't care about her. She thinks that she can't be herself around me or I'll hit her or something. None of that is true. She means the world to me, and I would never hit her. During our bit of a fight, sharing feelings, whatever you want to call it, she said some mean-ish things about me. That's not what made me go in my room and cry though. What made me cry is just the fact that we were fighting. I care about her that much, that if we're not getting along, I cry. And I don't eat.
I love both of my friends. I'm pretty sure we all love each other. I know its normal to get into occasional fights with your friends, but as many as we've gotten into? It's not normal. Is it? I don't want us to drift. It seems as though, in the last year, we have..... Drifted a little I mean.
Our little group thing is the most special thing I've ever been a part of. Better then all of the dance teams I'm on. I don't want it to just fade away. How can I keep us together without screwing up again, and making everything fall apart?
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Elena
6/28/2009 09:19:40 am
I just don't know what to say. Caitlin, you, and I need to get together and talk. Be eachother...now.
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Drifting
6/28/2009 09:35:59 am
Who is Elena? Who is Caitlin?
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Drifting
6/28/2009 09:38:15 am
Also, why did you leave a personal comment and not an answer to my advice question?
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Drifting
6/28/2009 10:26:29 am
Also, when you answer my question, please try to refer to ways that we could keep our group together. Not about my minor fight with my friend.
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Caitlin
6/29/2009 07:28:42 am
WHO WROTE DRIFTING? LARA? srry. Lara, ... We've had TWO fights and...why are you writing from our point of view?
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Drifting
6/29/2009 10:31:01 am
Lara is my best friend from dance. Who are you?
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